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It’s about that time. Time for another change. A new chapter. The next adventure. Change of scenery. I claim to have location ADD because I can never seem to last in one place very long. I think the only way I graduated from one university without transferring was leaving every summer for the needed change.

The more I succumb to my location ADD the more I’m understanding the pros and cons. Pros being I’ve been able to live in some incredible places and meet amazing people. Cons: I have to leave my nook and say goodbye to dear friends.

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I think everyone comes into our lives for a reason. We can learn something from everyone we encounter. We can help each other grow, share our thoughts and opinions, and most importantly make memories. I’ve been lucky to meet so many outstanding people that have benefited my life more than they may ever know.

Do some reflection today, take that trip down memory lane, and maybe even make note, about the people in your life that have affected you. It may have been a positive experience or a negative one, either way I bet you’ve learned something from having them in your life.

We are living in a time where it is too easy to communicate solely through social media. Pushing like on a photo, writing a short comment, or sending a quick snap or tweet doesn’t truly build a meaningful relationship. Now is a crucial period to set down the phone, tablet, whatever devise, and look people in the eye and communicate. We need human connection.

“Connection is why we're here. We are hardwired to connect with others, it's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it there is suffering.”

Communication is completely crucial in any relationship. There have been several moments in my life I wish I could have communicated better. Have you ever had a relationship fail due to lack of communication? It leads to misunderstandings, builds resentment, and if not addressed can ultimately end the relationship. Perhaps not all relationships are built to last but that doesn’t make it any easier when they end.

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Goblin Valley Utah 2012

I’ve had friendships end too abruptly and it caused me to play the What If game for a long time! Thinking if If I had only said this, What if I had done this differently … I experienced a roller coaster of emotions from bitterness, to sadness, anger, relief, regret, loneliness, and finally closure. Of course there are days of reminiscing and wanting to patch things but I think it’s important to appreciate present relationships and not dwell on the past.

Have you experienced this? Not all relationships end badly some fade away for a variety of reasons including distance or different life stages. Relationships take effort. It’s not easy to maintain a solid connection with someone. It’s something I feel is safe to say we can all work on.

 

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Student Teaching Norway 2014
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South Korea 2016

People matter. We all have feelings and thoughts. We are all connected. That’s why it’s so important to become vulnerable and let others get to know you. It’s too easy to put up a guard, puff up our egos, and have a mindset of I’m misunderstood by others so why bother letting them get to know me. I’ve been there and I’m still guilty of this occasionally. However, when the walls are broken down and we try to relate to each other, and most importantly listen to each other something special happens. We can build a bond that lasts a lifetime.

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  1. Leslie Chalfant says: Reply

    Crystal,
    This post has such a powerful message thank you for sharing. You have motivated me to embrace change and everything that comes with it. Change is something that I have frequently struggled with and you have shown me how it can be this amazing thing that can lead to a wonderful life. I love reading about all of your adventures! I can’t wait to start some of my own. Now, is the time to try something new and explore somewhere new, right? It is also the time to reconnect with those where connections have been lost or strained. Thank you for positively influencing my life just when I needed it most!
    Miss you!
    Leslie

    1. Thanks Leslie! Change is difficult, the unknown is a scary thing but it can also be very exciting and I think it definitely helps us grow! And yes! Now is the time to start on your adventures! We are in our prime age of being able to do anything we want! Thanks for the kind compliments! It means a lot! Hope you’re having a great summer!

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